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Pregnant Woman Gets Best Advice Ever When She Asks What to do With Husband who Wants His Parents in the Delivery Room

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Giving birth is such a wonderful experience, despite the pains and challenges associated with it. However, it is also a very intimate experience. While you may want to share this experience with more than just your significant other, others aren’t comfortable with that. After having a debate with her husband, one pregnant woman decided to ask others for their opinions and get their advice on if her mother in law should be in the delivery room and the results are amazing.

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Best Birthing Advice Ever

Isabella Laguna was recently about to give birth to twins. Her husband was demanding that his parents be involved in the birthing process, but she wasn’t so sure. She does not have the best relationship with her mother in law and just wanted a more personal birthing experience in general.

While she was on quora one day, she decided to post her dilemma and seek help.  Almost immediately, she received amazing advice. Let’s take a look at some of them below.


Funny Responses

Some people shared more funny responses to show how absurd this request was. Julia LaLima was one of those. She shared, “Tell your husband that before you’ll allow his parents in the room to labor and delivery, he must stand naked and also produce a bowel movement in front of your parents. He must remain spread eagle for at least 12 hours. If he accepts this challenge, allow his parents.”

Shirley Smeaton also responded similarly: “Firstly it is your body, Secondly it is your body and thirdly it is your body. Ask your husband how he would feel if your mother came along to watch him undress urinate pass all kinds of body fluids and solids while in pain and medical staff doing things to him that are intrusive.”


Supportive Responses

Margaret Challen gave a bit of more serious and really practical advice for this mom. Some of her response included, “I’m not too happy with this husband of yours, quite frankly. Under normal circumstances, I would say communication is key . . . but you’re about to have twins, which is double the trouble. Your husband should have accepted your refusal the first time around. . . You are heavily pregnant with multiples, and this is not the time for you to set boundaries. It is time to focus on getting through labor. Let your doctor be the bad guy this time.”

Rose, who works in labor and delivery, shared her opinion as well, “Seeing a baby being born is a wonderful thing but can be a very private time too. You need to be able to relax as much as possible between the contractions and family drama of any type won’t help.”

The majority of the responses shared that ultimately, it was her decision; however, she can work it out peacefully with her mother in law as well. What would you decide to do?

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I would make it abundantly clear that no ill will intended that you do not want your inkaw in the birthing room.Its one thing if you allow her to visit during the labor process, but another when actually giving birth  Either way its your choice. I made it very clear I did not want my ex mother there. She came after and that was fine.  If you were exceptionally close you may feel differently .. Bottom line, its your vhoice.


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