Some senior citizens are waving an enthusiastic good-bye to nursing homes and embracing senior cohousing living. I’ll explain what it is and why it’s potentially so great.
If you have aging parents who are making choices about where to spend their twilight years, senior cohousing is something you may want to bring up with them. Although it’s being seen as a new trend, history shows it’s been around in some form for centuries. There was a time when families kept their aging relatives with them. They were involved in running the household and helping with kids, which kept them happy, healthy and moving. I wish it was still this way. (If that’s your current situation, would you tell us about it in the comments?)
Senior Cohousing – The Facts
According to A Place for Mom, the average cost of a nursing home is between $4,000-$8,000 a month! PS: You’re not likely to have your own room for that price. The nursing home industry in the United States is ripe with corruption and abuse. It is, in most cases, a money grab for big businesses.
Senior cohousing, however, is a way for our older population to age in a way that may be much healthier both physically and mentally.
SeniorLiving.org explains cohousing this way.
Senior cohousing is a type of living community that combines private homes with clustered living spaces. A senior cohousing community includes 20 to 40 single-family or attached homes arranged so that everyone shares the same lawn space and walkways. Forty homes are the intentional maximum to be able to accommodate to the community arrangement. Everyone has their own personal living space, in addition to a shared common house. This house typically includes a large kitchen, dining room, den, and laundry room.
Mom and Dad can have their own little home or apartment in a small community, while also having their friends right next door to support each other. The buildings and grounds are laid out to be easier for folks to get around. They can gather together in one building, if they like, and prepare meals, play games or just hang out.
The main motivation for such communities is that humans need connections with other humans in order to thrive. It’s especially vital for our aging parents and grandparents.
Louis Cozolino, professor of psychology at Pepperdine University and author of Timeless: Nature’s Formula for Health and Longevity, writes that human brains are social organs. He says that means that “we are wired to connect with each other and to interact in groups. A life that maximizes social interaction and human-to-human contact is good for the brain at every stage, particularly for the aging brain.”
How Much Does Senior Cohousing Cost?
To find out, I did some snooping. I’m sad to say that many, if not most of the websites, don’t make it easy. They want you to call. I’m sure that’s so they can make a sales pitch. Unfortunately, that leaves me without a range of numbers for you.
It’s actually not always easy to find senior cohousing online. There is a website called Cohousing.org but I found that even that site doesn’t make it easy to find a place. So many of the communities are still under construction, which is good news for the coming years.
If senior cohousing interests your aging parents, I encourage you to be aggressive in your search. Definitely start with Cohousing.org, but don’t give up if you don’t find anything there. Try After55.com as well.
Talk to Your Parents
They may not know that there are senior cohousing communities where they would be incredibly happy, active, and social. Getting out to visit some that you find could be all they need to make the move.
What is your opinion of this kind of living situation for our aging parents? Have you had first-hand experience in your family?
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51 comments on “Grow Old With Friends In Senior Cohousing”
Shared/cohousing/CoLiving is definitely the trend. Â Studies show the rate of reduced isolation & lonliness. There can be financial benefits as well as the dignity of making your own decisions in your senior years. Â Check out Senior Ladies Living Together (on Gacebook) and CoLivingSolutions.ca as other alternatives. Â (Currently housing single, senior ladies.)
My mother came to live with us when she was 88. She was still social and active. We went out to lunch together, saw movies and got coffee after her doctor’s appointment. SHe was part of our household nail she started to stay in her suite more often. I hired a CNA to come three times a week to help her shower, play games, do puzzles and keep her company while I got grocery shopping and my own doctor’s appt. done. We went back to her old neighborhood once a month to have lunch with the ladies of her church. It was about an hour away so it was not able to be weekly. She did have her best friend come to visit on Saturdays until her health kept her from doing so.Â
I tried to take her out to meet more seniors close by but she did not want to leave home. She was having significant problems communicating and did not want to leave the house. I had to retire to have her in our home and we had to build a suite on our house to give her personal space to enjoy. She remained with us until she became bed bound and I could no longer physically care for her. At that point she had qualified for hospice care and we found a place where she could live out the last two weeks of her life.
I’m lucky to have grandchildren and great grandchildren living with me.  They are the joy of my life.
I was recently visiting a subdivision of a company I worked for. The sub division used to be a huge manufacturing facility. It had fallen on hard times. Much of the manufacturing space was dark and fenced off. It took a golf cart ride on roads inside the building to get from production area to production area where people were working. I recall saying it would make a great indoor city.Â
For the Seniors to have a indoor facility with some shopping movie social collecting areas indoors and court yard style within walking distance or bicycle or golf cart would be awesome. As I am quickly approaching my senior years I would welcome a community like that. Especially where weather hot or cold or wet was not an issueÂ
It would also be a great was to repurpose vacant buildings and revitalize areas.Â
We live with our immediate family. My husband and I , our daughter, her huband and there two children. My adult unmarried son also lives here. We bought a large three story home with a mother in law apartment. The property has a huge lot which makes parking easy for the 5 , soon to be 6 of us who drive. We see each other every day. It is wonderful.
Such cohousing places are probably wonderful and I would think there would be a big market for them – at least at some point. However, saying that elderly people can live there instead of a nursing home (“waving an enthusiastic goodbye to nursing homes”) is just not accurate. What you are talking about is for people who are still quite independent. People who need to live in nursing homes or assisted living facilities can’t live in these kinds of places, because they need assistance in aspects of daily living. Your article is mixing apples and oranges and is not well thought-out or researched, imo. You offer no real assistance to your readers in terms of costs, locations (states, etc), where to get more info, resources to contact, etc.
My 96 y o stepdad lives with me. He is still mobile but has some health issues. I’ve been in enough nursing homes to see the old people sitting in wheelchairs out in the hallways, asleep, practically falling out of their wheelchairs! I’d rather he fall asleep right in my family room recliner…He wouldn’t be mobile for long in a nursing home..
My Dad moved in with us a few months ago. He has been such a joy, and we absolutely love the stories we get to hear, (many of which is not heard before), and the closeness that’s afforded when the Grandchildren visit. They’ve been able to establish a great relationship with their Great Grandpa that they would not have otherwise had. Dad’s 85, and still in excellent health. I just couldn’t see him living alone after my Mom passed, and he didn’t want to stay in the home they’d shared. It’s just been such a huge blessing for us to have him here, and the interaction that we ALL need with others is fulfilled more fully.Â
In 2008 we bought a house with in law quarters which both my parents moved in. My dad has since passed and my mom still lives in her Apt attached to our house.
It has been great for the most part. There are times that I wish my husband and I had more alone time but I seriously wouldn’t change a thing.
I’m an only child so it made perfect sense for us to do this. We are now raising a grandchild and my mom has been great with helping and making all of our working/school schedules work.
The good has always out weighed the bad. She still has her Apt to go to when she needs alone time and we are always here for her.
Tammy
Yes I had a very difficult situation with my parents. Both 89 my dad was becoming wheelchair bound and my mom was in middle to late end dementia. My dad’s request was to keep them together. After searching facilities from information received from rehabilitation I learned about group homes & HIC homes. Well this was my answer. Group homes in Las Vegas, NV are residential homes converted to a group home that are registered by the state and inspected by the state. I was able to keep both in the same room and met all the needs for both my parents.